Sunday, March 18, 2012

Mother's Day


It's Mother's Day here in the UK today.

Another one of those days for people who no longer have their Mums to sit and think, "I wish....."

Well, actually, it doesn't take Mother's Day to make me wish that my Mum was still here. That happens every day and I don't suppose I'll ever stop feeling like that. I loved her so much and I miss her so much.

But I still consider myself so lucky that I did have my Mum for so long. I was in my early forties when I lost her....not everyone has their Mum for as long as that. So I look back and I appreciate every moment I had with her.

She was very special and I was very lucky.


I still am lucky.....I have been married to Ian for nearly twenty years. After I had been going out with him for a wee while, he took me to meet his Mum for the first time. I was a bit nervous, but when I met her, I found I had no reason to be nervous. I just felt relaxed in her company. Ian and I got married, she became my mother-in-law, and the bond between us has grown so much over the last twenty years.

She has always been there offering help. An ear to listen to me, and a shoulder to lean on any time I've needed it.

I remember being in Ian's Mum and Dad's house on the morning before we took my Mum to the Beatson Hospital in Glasgow to see the cancer specialist. We were trying not to expect a miracle, but we still really hoped for one. I stood on the doorstep before leaving their house, and Ian's Mum gave me a hug, which I will never, ever forget.

Being in her arms,  I felt like I was in the safest place in the world that day. She was trying to hold back her own tears and she told me to go and be strong for my Mum. And I did try my hardest to be strong for my Mum that day, and over the following few weeks. But at that moment, that morning, I just wanted to stay in her arms forever.

She is very special and Ian and I are both so lucky. We both love her so much.

Nobody can ever replace my Mum. But nobody could ever replace Ian's Mum either.


 
Mums
Mums are extra special friends
Who are always there for you
They are there during the good times
And the not so good ones too
They are proud of your achievements
And hold your hand if you are shy
They laugh when you are laughing
And hold you close while you cry

Mums are extra special gifts
And I am so lucky to have been given you
Because I couldn’t have had better
And I know for sure that's true
 E.S.

So.......back to Mother's Day.......a day when people are meant to show their love and appreciation to their Mums. But in my mind, people shouldn't need a special day on the calendar to show that.

That should happen all the time.




8 comments:

  1. I love this, Liz. :)
    Erika

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  2. Elizabeth you had me reading this through giant tears. I never realized until now that we we both around the same age when we had to cope with losing our Mum, give or take a few months. Your Gran died when I was 42 and 3 months, and sadly I wasn't with her at the end. It never gets easier but like you I feel lucky to have had her as long as I did. I remember that day you all went to the Beatson, the hoping for a miracle.It wasn't meant to be and I miss your Mum so much but we both have wonderful memories which are a comfort.Ian's Mum sounds like a lovely person and I know your Mum would be very happy to have the comfort of knowing you have her. It was nice talking to you yesterday on Skype and I hope you don't have a bad day today with all of yesterday's acivity.

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    1. Yes, Lindsay, we all miss her and will never stop missing her. And yes, Ian's Mum is also very special. My Mum was always pleased that I had such a good relationship with Ian's parents. Love to you all xxx

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  3. very nice pome, Liz :) and a lovely tribute.
    Kathy xxx

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